It’s wasn’t something you thought would happen. Your period is LATE!!! And you were sooooo careful — you didn’t use any contraception because you heard if he didn’t ejaculate or pulled out right away, you couldn’t get pregnant. And, just to be extra sure, you did jumping jacks for several minutes right after! What went wrong? Is it possible that the information you heard from your friends about how not to get pregnant was incorrect?
Sperm have one mission: to find and fertilize an egg. They don’t care what position you’re in, whether you have an orgasm, or if it’s your first time.
You know how babies are made, but you may have misunderstood some basic facts of human biology. The male body produces that tiny resilient sperm — actually millions of tiny resilient sperm — whose only mission is to find and fertilize a woman’s egg. They are so resilient that they can travel farther and live longer than you might think. They are present in men’s ejaculated fluid (semen) and also in the pre-ejaculate (the small amount of fluid that leaks out of the penis before a guy ejaculates). If any of that semen comes in contact with a woman’s vaginal area, there is a chance of her becoming pregnant. And if you don’t use some form of contraception with each and every act of intercourse, you are having unprotected sex, which increases your risk of getting pregnant. It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg.
- you are a virgin or it’s the first time you’ve have sex
- both you and your partner are virgins
- you don’t have an orgasm
- you’re having your period
- he pulls out before he ejaculates
- he doesn’t put it in “all the way”
- you have sex in the shower, pool, or hot tub
- you have sex standing up
- the girl is on top
- you jump up and down right after sex
- you sneeze for 15 minutes after sex
- you douche, bathe, or urinate right after sex
- you push really hard on your bellybutton right after sex
- he drinks Mountain Dew
WOW! What a lot of misguided advice. First of all, it doesn’t matter what position you use or where you have intercourse — if you have unprotected sex you have the chance of getting pregnant. It doesn’t matter what you do after you have sex — if you have unprotected sex you have the chance of getting pregnant. Gravity could never remove all the sperm from a woman’s body, so even jumping vigorously after sex will do nothing to prevent pregnancy.
If you are a virgin or have never had sex before or never even had a period yet, your body still may be ready to get pregnant. Young women can ovulate up to 14 days before their first period and having sex then may result in pregnancy. It only takes one time: your first time or any time. There is no way for sperm or an egg to know the difference! And having an orgasm has no relationship to whether or not you will get pregnant. If you have unprotected sex, you have a chance of getting pregnant.
And just because you are having your period, don’t assume you are safe. It’s possible for sperm to live several days inside a woman’s body and fertilize the egg that was still working its way down the fallopian tubes to her uterus.
Having sex in a hot tub or pool does not reduce your chances either. Mountain Dew, or any type of soda, does nothing to reduce men’s fertility or sperm count. Remember, it only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg, so no amount of bathing or douching after sex can eliminate every possible sperm. And peeing after sex will not flush sperm from your vagina. Urine travels from your bladder through the urethra to exit your body out of a separate opening that is not connected to your vaginal opening, so there is no way urine could flush sperm out of your vagina.
Abstinence (not having sex) is the only absolute sure-fire way not to get pregnant. There are over 625,000 women and girls 19 years of age and younger who get pregnant each year, and most of these pregnancies are unplanned. Imagine how having a baby may change your plans for the future. Being sexually active is a big personal responsibility so getting educated about what contraceptives are available for you and learning how to use them properly can be the key to making your life unfold the way you want it to be.
A health care provider at Planned Parenthood can teach you about the real facts on reproduction, pregnancy, and contraception. If you have questions, make an appointment with us. Planned Parenthood is here for you.
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